Let Kids Be Kids

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How should I treat my child during and after my divorce?

Let Kids Be Kids

Try not to give your child more responsibility immediately after your divorce or lean on him for emotional support as you would a friend.

It´s also important that children not hear too much about the divorce through casual phone conversations or dialogues with friends.

One of the hardest parts about being a grown up is acting like one, especially during times of stress, or when you feel as though you've been wronged. Although there may be little positive comments you can say about your ex-spouse or partner, it's not the child's job to listen to you vent or complain about them. It's their job to be their ages and know any snarkey comments you throw out there, they are going to feel the weight of those toxic words double. Not only will they feel responsible for your happiness, but the other parent's as well. If they have questions, be honest, but not petty or derogatory. It serves no purpose, even if you feel the need to "protect" your child, calling the other parent name serves no purpose other than venom.

Remember, children should be allowed to be children, not sounding boards.

   

Comments

2/9/2011 7:49:42 AM
ren said:

put a date when did you write it because as a researcher a need it. specially we always using it on our termpaper


2/21/2011 11:17:59 PM
Patricia said:

Okay, it should have a date, but I'll check. If it doesn't, it's also a programming issue, but I will take your suggestion.
Thank you.




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